A day for mothers - Mother's Day!

Today is Mother’s day and I am surprised and amazed by reading my friends thanking their moms, social media flooded with the heartwarming messages on Mother’s day on Facebook, Twitter and other corners of internet world. I saw people tagging their moms in a pic, writing lovely messages, social media floating lot of surveys and campaigns to lure the FB users to participate, online shopping sites providing discounts not only on this day but for a week and advertisements running on both online/ TV and paper to promote this day as Big day.

This morning when I woke up to the celebration of motherhood, I felt good. Being a mother, I myself take this authority to claim that a mother is not who nurtures but is one who suddenly becomes a multitasker with all her body senses getting numbed except the one that respond to her child 24*7.  

The feeling was great but it vanished like a bubble and forced me to think -  is it a good thing to celebrate motherhood, feeling of “being a mother”, celebrating the greatness of our lovely moms only on one fixed day of a fixed month? Actually a day and month fixed by someone else, not you.

In reality, may be the flood of thanking emotions for your mom may pop up each day, each moment when you feel helpless and when you feel directionless and a voice from background guides you.

Yet, we all will wait for this day to wish our mom, to say thank you..!!

I am not challenging the emotional value of the “special” day. Honestly, I also wished my mom and could feel that she smiled and felt happy on the other side of the phone. But, this is the way she always feel when I tell her that I love her. What’s the difference I make to her, probably nothing – maybe I wanted to be a part of the same league of wishing my mom.

Celebrating only a day as Mother’s day, Father’s day, Valentine’s Day make me feel as if I am not left with ample number of days to celebrate my love with my mother, father or partner. Why can’t we devote few moments each day for our parents and partner instead of that one day to live and die.

At least, I would like my son to give me few moments each day instead of one day per year!!

Social media and society

What a lovely day... Met one of my old school friends on FB, had a video chat with one of my ex colleague and then, in the meanwhile, I cooked, cleaned my house while chatting with my friends and cousin on whatsapp..(App for chatting on phones)

Sounds good!! Thanks to technology that has created this imaginary yet real "chatsphere" around us.

But the moment you come out of this sphere, we feel lonely as never before. What an irony, you talk to your friends on FB more than face to face, you like their activity, praise their pics and what not.. But when you meet them it’s the same relationship, in many cases, it’s not that sugar coated as it appears on social media.

The objective of existing social network was to connect you with our friends and may be, help them when required. Alas! we have started displaying our love, success and opinions towards others....I am yet to see someone sharing their story on how to reach that love, success or opinions.

I believe that this showcasing of incomplete story of our lives is inspired by our societal mannerisms. Mannerisms that are instilled in us right from the time we grew up, we have been told to cry in private and smile in public or what will people say. Though I believe that washing your dirty linen in public is bad yet I do not agree with statement of “What will people say" (Anyways, we will come to this, in my next post)

For now, I believe people have started using social media channels not to influence society or connecting with long lasting friend, but to show off their one sided story.

It would be great to see all of us sharing our story that led us not only to success but steps to success that might include our failures so others know what to do and what not. Then we will become social media centric society and not just society, then we will have our own rules and not the ones laid long time back.

Lessons from my life - Part I

All of us, in our lives, everyday face the challenge of proving your worth to your boss..
We believe that we, the educated, technically sound employees should be recognised. for our work. To get this recognition, we don't feel that extra mile of learning more, reading more and doing more..

Inspite of all these,ironically, at very few instances hard work pays or at least thats how we all percieve when we get our bonus or increament news at the end of the year.. Right?

In the same context, while I was thinking hard how to achieve my goals and be worthy for my company in all sense, I realised that my maid, third time in the row, is not turning up -
          OMG!!! Now What???? (my face wide opened... hair curled up in question mark style.. feeling the worst of all the times again.. yet again.. THAT MAID.. didn't turn up)

And while with all these intense feelings & over rated emotions and my melodramatic dialogues were getting there way out through my constant grumbling for that one hour when I tried managing everything to cook and clean, a thought passed my mind and I wondered....

What made her so special to me, all the time, everytime. Honestly, I want her to come everyday, I want leaves but can't give one to her. I found her so Irreplaceable and important in my life... I wondered Why ?? Why this person with no technical or litterate abilities is irreplaceable? Do they know better softer skills than us? Are they actually good in, what we call, "office politics" or rather  "home to home politics"?
Are they actually the best supply managers? Are they highly networked? Are they the good peers?

I observed what they actually do to be like the one they are -

Picture this:

1) Your maid comes on time, do what is required - This is bare minimum
2) Not doing anything extra till asked for and then doing it with perfection so that you tend to ask for more and they can ask for raise - Smart worker and not hard worker ;)
3) She talks and bitch about your neighbour - Uphold your self esteem
4) She tells you how good you are and how bad the other ones are - Home to Home Politics
5) She tells you what your neighbours are doing, act as social networking site for you - Highly networked
6) No other maid will take up your job till the first leaves - Good peers to each other

Let's apply it to the office scenario:

If I can do my bare minimum work with perfection, be highly networked and let the boss know how good he/ she is ( also how bad other bossess are), showcasing them a sample work of that extra mile (instead of walking that mile) I can do, be good to my peers, will I can also be that irrreplaceable employee for my manager?

Off course, a thought to ponder on!
f not all, at least I can apply few of my observations to my office scenario to see what change can they bring to my goals and my relations to my manager.

Somebody has rightly said - its good to be educated and technically sound because that FETCHES you job but its still the most important thing to be smart because that SUSTAIN your job!!  

Luckily, in these recession times, I have a job.. it's time to Sustain it!  

Craze of India makes people crazzyyy !!

Being a consultant, I heard myself telling innumerable times about India shining and India growing. I always believed that India is growing, Indians are at par intelligent and smart enough to manage any company operations etc. , the inflow of companies have gone higher and probably because of that the inflow of tourist is much better now.
But last week when I was in stationary shop in Connaught place, I found a foreigner lady asking for loose printing papers and not the whole box as that was useless for her.
After asking for long, she couldn’t get it as shopkeeper told that now full boxes are sold easily and loose papers are not easily available.
She turned back, little disappointed and said “That’s why I say now India has changed, there is not the same craze of living as it was before, now India has imbibed western culture, you will find things big and more and not small and handy. Everything has changed, people has stopped wearing their cultural clothes and forgotten their traditions."
I found that she came from US and settled with her family in Kerala because she loved the simplicity and traditions of the nation.
Her disappointment was logical but what should India do? India is developing fast to keep pace with the developed world.I can see a clash of traditions and development happening in the country.
But this small moment was an eye opener for me as now I know, tourists come to enjoy Indian tradition and culture. They come to experience the vermilions, herbs, food, dress, people, religions, monuments, colors and lot more for which India is being known for ages.

Drops of Joy :)

Nowadays, I have started feeling that the pleasure of recieving another week with joy follows a curve, it starts with a very good good morning on Monday and with 2nd and 3rd day, when you get tired with daily activities, when you did'nt get time to talk to yourself, then it becomes hard to understand what others are saying.
In the same lines, one morning in between week, wednesday/ thursday, my mind rejected to understand what my husband was telling me and I kept arguing and telling what I want to do. He being a nicer person, soon took away all his suggestions/ comments and we left for the office.
On the way, I kept analysing, commenting, arguing with myself and suddenly, in all this spiderweb of thoughts, a drop of rain catched my attention and I smiled.
As being said, "smile is a curve that makes everything straight", that very moment and for the day, it started drizzling, then raining heavily and I smiled for long. All my way to office, I enjoyed rains, small transparent drops that I always love to be in..
Between I called my husband and somehow, all things get corrected.
The heat of discussion had gone and here comes the drop of joy, the pleasure of being wet in rain.

Thank God !! He created nature that intoxicates our mind and soul !!

Why double standards? Lets take a foot forward

We are "Proud to be an Indian", yes, We are !!

We are examples of "Unity In Diversity", yes We are !!

Yet..

We treat different people on religion and region basis.

We ask people their religion or the place they belong so that we can make that bond.

Though...

It doesnot mean that we are not united but it surely means that we are not doing any attempts so as to give our future generations a better and a religion/ region free India.

I personally believe that we should took some steps forward either not to teach our children than "God Is One" and "All Are Same" or we should treat everyone equally everywhere, unbiasally.

Lets see how easy it is, how united we are and how sincere we are for our future generations.

Lets see how the flash wave or ray of light will flow from act of loving cricket to loving all Khans and be proud of them internationally.

Lets recognise common man of every religion and region and lets honour them.

Lets do not stop our chidren from visiting and enjoying the world by abstaining from some good activities that could develop them more.

Lets change words into action

Lets Do it now!!

Starting a new activity to fill that void

Was trying to find out a place where I can scribble whenever feel like. As computers and blogs have taken the place of pen and paer, I have decided to use this digital technology for my self inspection.